The Four Agreements: Don’t Take Anything Personally

The women have gathered, and they are now known as the Unity Women’s Adventure Group aka UWAG.

Their first event will be on Friday at the Portland Art Museum followed by an event on Sunday. The group will also be walking the Mill Brook Preserve Trailhead at 50 Perry Court in Westbrook on Sunday at noon. This will be a two-mile walk.

Last week I gave you some thoughts to ponder and will do so each week. So here are this week’s thoughts.

“Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in . . . even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. . .” — Don Miguel Ruiz

What happens when we take something personally?

We give our power away.
We get offended.
Conflict is created.
We feel the need to defend ourselves.
We feel the need to be right.

If you feel hurt by what someone else says, what is that about?

Ask the question of yourself: What inside of me is this person touching? More than likely, it is a wound in you that is not yet healed that is resonating with what is being said.

Our relationship with others is constantly letting us know what areas we still need to work on.

What can you expect if you don’t take what others say or do personally?

You learn to evaluate what others are saying and see if it is right for you.
You learn to trust yourself to make responsible choices.
You don’t have to take responsibility for other people’s choices.

“Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally. If they tell you how wonderful you are, they are not saying that because of you. You know you are wonderful. It is not necessary to believe other people who tell you that you are wonderful. Don’t take anything personally.” — Don Miguel Ruiz

Today and this week I invite you to live in such a way that whatever anyone does or says to you, it does not disturb the calm peace of your soul.

You are a blessing in my life,
Rev. Patricia Bessey

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