Heart Thoughts: Dare to Be Wrong

The countdown is on, and in just two days the 2023 We Are the Light Women’s Retreat begins. It is so exciting to have Deb Engle, author of Only Little Prayer You Need, Be the Light That You Are and Let Your Spirit Guides Speak, as our Retreat Director. Deb also wrote a novel, Twenty, which is one of my all-time favorites Twenty.

What is also exciting is we have women coming from Virginia, Massachusetts, and Vermont as well as Maine. How does it get any better than this!

While we are away on retreat our guest speaker for Sunday will be someone who we know so well and love, and that is Rev. Todd Glacy. He will be doing the talk and music.

The message this past Sunday was another powerhouse from the book Dare to Be Yourself. The title was Dare to Be Wrong. There were so many good takeaways, such as KYBMS, which translates to “keep your big mouth shut,” and the story Alan Cohen shared was a perfect example of when to use this.


Another takeaway was “pray to be wrong.” Whenever we are angry, upset or feeling like a victim, we are better off wrong than right.

Alan writes: Whenever I perceive myself as losing, hurt, or unjustly treated, I close my eyes, turn my mind to Spirit and ask God to show me that I am wrong about the way I have been seeing the painful situation.

Your prayer might be God, please let me be wrong about all of this.

He says: I am happy to promise you that your prayer will be answered because, quite frankly, you are wrong about it all.


Daring to be wrong about who you thought you were is an essential part of personal growth and self-discovery.

Dare to question your beliefs:
– Identify a belief you strongly hold.
– Research and explore opposing viewpoints without judgment.
– Consider the possibility that your belief might be incomplete or inaccurate.

Dare to play the devil’s advocate:
– Engage in a debate where you argue for a viewpoint you disagree with.
– This exercise helps you understand different perspectives and challenges your assumptions.

Dare to embrace failure:
– Set a goal that you might fail at.
– Embrace the possibility of failure and focus on the lessons learned rather than the outcome.

Dare to seek feedback:
– Ask for feedback on your work or ideas from diverse sources.
– Be open to criticism and view it as an opportunity to learn and grow.
– Avoid becoming defensive; instead, ask questions to understand different perspectives.

Celebrate Your Mistakes:
– Whenever you realize you were wrong, acknowledge it without self-criticism.
– Celebrate the opportunity to learn and grow from the experience.

If any of the above caused you to have a physical reaction, that is the one you might want to work on…just a thought.

Remember, daring to be wrong is not about devaluing your opinions or beliefs, but about remaining open-minded and willing to evolve as a person. It’s a continuous process of learning and self-discovery.

You are a blessing in my life,
Rev. Patricia Bessey



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