Author of the book, Dr. Gary Chapman concludes that Physical Touch is one of the five primary ways in which we express emotional love to others.
Research in the area of child development has made the conclusion that babies who are held, hugged and kissed develop a healthier physical and emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact. In fact in an article I read it says babies that have skin-to-skin contact are calmer, cry less and some studies show their brain development is helped probably because of being calmer and they sleep better.
It doesn’t matter what age we are talking about without those physical expressions of closeness and affection, we feel unloved! If our love language is physical touch we especially benefit from physical touch, our emotional love-tank is filled and we feel secure in the love of those closest to us.
There are times when it is almost instinctive and natural to hug another, and that is in a time of crisis. It is then, more than at any other time, when we need to feel loved. We cannot always change events, but we can survive if we feel loved! Physical touch is a universal way of expressing that care and comfort.
I have learned, over the years, that in time of crises, people don’t really want explanations, or words or sermons or lectures! What they really want is just an indication of your love and concern – maybe a hug, or just someone to sit with them and hold their hand. The hug and other expressions that you care will be remembered and appreciated far more than any words.
I remember having the awareness when my Mom was still with us how little physical touch that she received. She was not a touchy feely person, actually nobody in my immediate family was so could that be why this is my primary love language, hum! Anyway both Rev. LeRoy and I would make a point to go sit next to her on the couch and put our arm around her and lay our hand on her knee. Towards the end of her life I became the mother of the child and would put her to bed at night and rub her feet and run my fingers through her hair. That always put a smile on her face. The point I am making here is the importance of physical touch to those who live alone especially if their love language is physical touch. It is important for us to remember to give the extra hug that might be needed after a class or on Sunday.
I hope this series has shed a light how to better communicate with those that you love and work with. And on what you need to fill your love tank and what those closest to you need from you to fill theirs.
Join me next Sunday as we begin the Lenten season with a series from the book The Lazarus Blueprint written by Unity ministers, Richard and Mary-Alice Jafolla. A time for discussion on the week’s lesson will be available following fellowship at 12:15 with Nancy Bastow, LUT, through the next six weeks. The book is available in our Unity Bookstore.
You are a blessing in my life,